Conversational Narcissism is a conversation in which the speaker is more concerned about talking about themself as oppose to really creating a dialog. While everyone likes to talk about themself, we obviously can not do it all the time as then we end up dominating a conversation, and not really taking an interest in the person we are talking to etc. When we neglect the person we are talking to, eventually that person will get a clue and say you know what, screw you I'm tired of listening to you talk about yourself. After a while, narcissism gets old.
I know I recently met someone around here where he always talked about him, his daughter or daughter's mother (drama with mother). Frankly, I didn't care to hear about it either. Occassional discussion about it was ok, but man, this guy would yack about it all the time! And whenever I would discuss anything--general happy topic about my family/sister, school etc, he would find whatever I would say and relate it to him some how and would be off on a tangent and dismiss the fact I was originally talking. Then when I would get moody (which I admit happens often, but I did also warn him that I do get ;) ) he would get mad and then cuss me out with some name and ignore me. Like no question as to what was wrong you know. So when I finally brought it to his attention one night, after he went on for like 45 minutes about his daughter drama, knowing fully that I was studying for a final that was the next morning, he was like oh well sorry to trouble you, and essentially stopped talking to me. Hey, I admit I'm much better off without him around, I'm glad he was a jerk when I tried to express my feelings.
So this in my opinion was an example in which I could relate to the topic.
Subscribe to:
Post Comments (Atom)
1 comment:
I feel your pain on the 45 minute rant the night before something big. It never comes in times of nothing but when something big is about to happen. I have had that with a girl i was involved with also. She would always dominate the conversation with her thoughts or her ideas, but once i said one thing about how she had been acting, I would get the rant about all these things that are wrong with her and about how this and that make her upset and all these things that are wrong with me when in actuality it was her that was the problem. And this all happened before a Saturday double-header in May. She did not get the idea that i had to fall asleep so i could play two games in one afternoon. She was more worried about her drama and her voice than my own thoughts. I thought a relationship was about good communication?
Post a Comment